With the summer in full bloom, if you are like my husband and myself, we are busy hopping from barbeque to pool party to music festival, thoroughly enjoying the extended hours of light, visiting with friends until well after the stars shine in the sky. All the fun, visiting and keeping up with the summer’s high social schedule can leave little time for just the two of you.
My husband and I are very busy and creative spirits and can easily fill every night of the week with some great activity that only comes around during these wonderful summer months. So, many years ago, ten to be exact, we made a pack. A pack to make at least one day a week, just ours. For us that one day a week involves no phone, no news, no internet, no work, no…well you get the idea. It took us a little time to train our friends and family that on Sundays we are unreachable, but with some loving consistency they now know we are ‘off’ for the day.
We take ‘Our Day’ and visit with one another. We revisit dreams, come up with new adventures to plan for and work on solutions to a projects all while hiking, smelling flowers, sitting ankle deep in the middle of a creek. Are you getting the full picture? We un-plug and fully concentrate on our desired dreams together, our relationship, our concerns…it is all about us. I choose to marry my best friend, my lover and confidant, why would I not want to still spend time with him; dreaming, planning and growing old into our future together.
It is so easy with our intensely busy society, technology and to-do lists that we put off deepening our relationship with our beloved until later. You already have one another, right? See each other over coffee in the morning and share a meal at the end of day, touching lightly on the highlights that happened during the in-between hours. This is great and important, yet there is so much more to when you plan a day just for the two of you.
We have kids, I work two jobs, etc., etc… you’re telling me. You can always, and I mean always, come up with excuses! Then I say to you, start slow with this new idea. Make one day a month Your Day! If the whole day is too much to start with at first, go for a few hours. Commit to each other again. Remember when you were first falling in love? You would make time at 11 o’clock in the evening if it meant spending just 30 minutes with one another. I invite you to re-kindle that flame and put each other first. Yes, first before the kids, before work, before other engagements. Trust me, if you put a little more time back to one another then all the others that require your attention will be easier. In a short amount of time, you’ll see that the specific attention that you are focusing on one another starts to manifest your dreams easier and you’ll move that one day a month to one day a week!
Have fun this summer and remember as you are enjoying all the fun out there take a little time for your beloved!
Many Blessings ~ Shanandoah